I
have never been much into creating sermon titles. Like this one for example, I gave it the
exciting title, “Sermon for Luke 15:1-3, 11b-32.” I know, it just makes you want to run to
church, does it not? “I can’t wait to
see what the ‘b’ part of verse 11 is!”
However,
if I were to give this sermon a title, there are an abundance of
possibilities. “The Once Lost and Now
Found Son” might be appropriate. Or
simply, “The Repentant Son,” might work fine.
After-all, this sermon is about this brat of a kid who asks his loving
father for his share of the inheritance.
And, if you are asking yourself, “Hold on here, don’t we get inheritance
after someone is dead?” you would be absolutely correct. That is precisely what puts this son in the “I’m
going to call him a brat, but I could have used a much more inappropriate name”
category. He is essentially telling the
world that his father is dead to him.
It
is a lot like the day that your mother-in-law accidentally sees on your kitchen
table the remodeling designs you had drawn up for her house.
“What is that? That looks a lot like my house!”
“Well…it isn’t quite your house, is it? This one has a three car garage on it.”
“It is too my house. And, why would I need a three car garage?”
“Well, I was going to surprise you…”
“No you were not.”
“Yes, I was.”
“No you were not, you titled these
plans: “After the old bat dies.”
And,
this is exactly the attitude of this little brat. Any self-respecting father in the ancient world
would have written this insensitive, conniving, selfish, little twerp off. There would be no inheritance for him. But, that is not what happens is it?
Instead
of sending the child packing, empty handed, the Father actually divides his
land and gives the money grabbing twerp all that he asked. The Father shows a reckless sort of love to
his son.
As
you would expect, that love falls flatly on the floor as the son turns his back
and walks out the door.
And,
just in case you were wondering if this is one of those stories of the
enterprising young man who used his small inheritance to build up a great and
thriving business, this is not that story.
Rather, this is the more typical, very real story of the kid who wasted
his money on stupid things. He is like
the guy I know who spent all his money on a nice ring for his girlfriend, but
forgot to the little things like buying food, and paying the electric bill, and
buying gas so that he could get to work.
The
son finds himself feeding the pigs, staring hungrily at the scraps of food that
the pigs are eating. It is only at this
point, when he is at his lowest in life, that he comes to the conclusion that
he needs his dad. He comes up with a sneaky
sort of plan to get back into his father’s good graces, but the plan is unneeded
because his father is already waiting for him with an all embracing sort of eternal
love that was never lost, though he was.
He was lost, and then he was found.
He is the “The Once Lost and Now Found Son.” He is the “The Repentant Son.” And, the song that we would sing with such a
sermon title would be “Amazing Grace.”
Of
course, the story does not stop there, and neither do the sermon titles. Another sermon title could have been, “The Really,
Really, Really, Really Angry Older Brother.”
Or maybe simply, “The Unforgiving Brother.” After-all, the story continues with the older
brother finding out about his younger brother’s return, and about the party
that was thrown for the little slime bag.
The older brother refuses to celebrate the kid who ruined his father’s
life, even if his father is willing to put that all behind. “The Unforgiving Brother” would seem like an
apt title, but, I think that I would go for “The Lost and Forgotten Older Brother.”
After-all,
the older brother is forgotten. Every
single day, it seems, the father would stare at the horizon, searching for his
lost, younger son…you know, the one who broke his heart and ran off. And, every single day the older brother was
the responsible one who worked hard and cared for everything in order to be a
good son to his father.
Notice
that the older brother was still out, working in the field, when his brother
came home. He was still out, working in
the field, when the party started and the fatted, 4H calf was prepared for the
feast. He was still out, working in the
field, when the dancing and singing began.
He was still out, working in the field, and no one, even the father,
thought to go and get him. Why are the
good and responsible ones always forgotten?
Once
a woman sat in my office, anger seething from her lips, as she described how
her entire family’s world revolved around her sister. Her sister was a drug addict who had sucked
all her parent’s attention and money.
This was so much the case that when she, the good daughter who cared for
her parents and helped them out all the time, fell on hard times because of
illness, there was no help left for her.
There was no more time. There was
no more money. She, the good daughter,
had been forgotten.
After
the anger drained from her face, she fell into a deep sort of sobbing as she
came to the realization that she, the good one, had been forgotten.
“What
does being good get you?” she asked.
If
either she, or the older brother in the Bible story had their way, there would
be a price to pay for being a wretch. “Justice
needs to be shown, and consequences need to be had!” they would argue. And, part of me truly agrees. You cannot act like a jerk and expect
everyone to bend over backwards for you.
And, for those of us who feel like justice has been completely
forgotten, and feel like we have been completely forgotten, we would sing the
hymn, “O God, Why Are You Silent.”
But,
if I were to settle on a final sermon title, I think that it would be, “Show
Love and Forgive Anyway.”
Because,
when the father is faced with the betrayal of a son who asks for his
inheritance and declares him good as dead, the father provides for the son and
gives the inheritance anyway. “Show Love
and Forgive Anyway.” And, when the
wayward son shows up, destitute, the father embraces him before the son can
even get out the words, “I’m sorry.” The
father celebrates his return and provides for his needs anyway.
“Show
Love and Forgive Anyway.”
And,
when the older son confront the old fool and points out just how unfair he has
been to him, the eldest son who has stuck by him the entire time and never
defied him while that son of his devoured the father’s property with
prostitutes, the old fool replies, “Son, you are always with me, and all that
is mine is yours. But, we had to
celebrate and rejoice, because this brother of yours was dead and has come to
life; he was lost and has been found.”
“Show
Love and Forgive Anyway.”
The
older brother was not wrong. The younger
brother was terrible. And, the father
had forgotten him, the good son, and taken him for granted. All of that is true, but it still does not
change the fact that it is love and forgiveness that saves.
“Show
Love and Forgive Anyway.”
When
Jesus was betrayed, denied, and abandoned by those he loved dearly, he could
have quite rightly flared with righteous anger.
The whole lot of them could have been rightly wiped off the face of the
earth, along with all those who wrongly accused him and nailed him to a cross
to die. But, that was not what Jesus
chose to do. Rather, Jesus chose to show
love and forgive anyway.
Do
you know what I love about this story of the dysfunctional family? I love that we do not know how it ends. Did the brother enter into the party or did
he storm away? Did he reconcile with his
younger brother, or did a destructive feud begin? When the older brother was shown the door to
the party, did he follow his father in?
I
love that we do not know how it ended, because it allows us to finish the
story. So, we ask ourselves, would we
follow our father into the party? Would
we choose love or would we choose hate? Would
we see that in Jesus there is a deep, deep wisdom that sometimes we just need
to trust? Would we show love and forgive
anyway?
After-all,
we have a God that will search for us and find.
We have a God that will embrace us with welcome arms, even before we are
able to utter the words, “I’m sorry.” We
have a God that truly believes that grace and forgiveness have a healing power
that is far better than any other course of action we could choose to
take. We have a God who will find us, just
as we are, and show us love and forgiveness anyway. And, the song that we would sing would be one
that talks about God finding us.