Matthew 22:1-14
1 Once more
Jesus spoke to them in parables, saying: 2 “The kingdom of heaven may be
compared to a king who gave a wedding banquet for his son. 3 He sent his slaves
to call those who had been invited to the wedding banquet, but they would not
come. 4 Again he sent other slaves, saying, ‘Tell those who have been invited:
Look, I have prepared my dinner, my oxen and my fat calves have been
slaughtered, and everything is ready; come to the wedding banquet.’ 5 But they
made light of it and went away, one to his farm, another to his business,
6 while the rest seized his slaves, mistreated them, and killed them. 7 The
king was enraged. He sent his troops, destroyed those murderers, and burned
their city. 8 Then he said to his slaves, ‘The wedding is ready, but those
invited were not worthy. 9 Go therefore into the main streets, and invite
everyone you find to the wedding banquet.’ 10 Those slaves went out into the
streets and gathered all whom they found, both good and bad, so the wedding
hall was filled with guests.
11 “But
when the king came in to see the guests, he noticed a man there who was not
wearing a wedding robe, 12 and he said to him, ‘Friend, how did you get in here
without a wedding robe?’ And he was speechless. 13 Then the king said to the
attendants, ‘Bind him hand and foot, and throw him into the outer darkness,
where there will be weeping and gnashing of teeth.’ 14 For many are called, but
few are chosen.”
Reflection
There is
something that I simply do not like about this parable of the wedding banquet. This thing makes me uncomfortable and confused,
and my guess is that it will do the same for you.
But I was once told that I should not start off a sermon with negativity. “Start off with something good. We hear enough negativity in the world. We do not need to come to church and hear it too.”
So, even though there is something that troubles me about this parable, I will indeed start off with all the things I like about it.
First, this story, about the king who throws a wedding feast and invites people, is a parable. I love parables. I love stories that you have to think about and wrestle with and argue with. I know some of you like to have clear answers. There is nothing wrong with that. Maybe parables just are not for you, but I love to wrestle with a good parable from Jesus.
So, that is not the part I do not like.
The second thing that I like about this parable is that this king takes horrendous, evil things done to others seriously. Those wealthy and powerful who beat and killed the king’s lowly servants simply because they handed out some wedding invitations deserve no mercy. We live in an age where it seems that if the perpetrator has enough money and power, the little guy never sees justice. So, even though I am not really a vengeance and killing sort of guy (what happens to the murderers in the story), I do appreciate that those with money and power do not get away with it. God notices and cares when we face injustice.
So, that also is not the part I do not like.
And knowing that I like to root for the little guy, it will be no surprise that I really, really like this next part of the story. The king says to his servants: “‘The wedding is ready, but those invited were not worthy. Go therefore into the main streets, and invite everyone you find to the wedding banquet.’ Those slaves went out into the streets and gathered all whom they found, both good and bad, so the wedding hall was filled with guests” (Matthew 22:8-10).
Since the wealthy and powerful do not want anything to do with the banquet, the king just invites everyone. You don’t know the king? You are invited! You are just a poor nobody? You are invited! You are a gentle soul who wouldn’t impose on anyone? You are invited! You have a terrible past and a terrible reputation and wish that life was different? You are invited! You have never been the best person? You are invited anyway! “Those slaves went out into the streets and gathered all whom they found, both good and bad” (Matthew 22:10).
I love this part of the story because you have no idea how many people I have invited to come and worship who say to me, “I don’t think I am a very good choice for you to be inviting to church.” Sometimes the reason is because of poor clothing. Sometimes the reason is because of a disruptive child. Sometimes the reason is because of a shameful past and torn heart.
But both the good and the bad are invited to the party in the parable, and I let them know each and every time that, “We are invited by Jesus, not because we are great, but because we are not, we need him. The good and the bad, the rich and the poor, the well dressed and the poorly dressed are all welcome to come and feast with Jesus.”
And I love the image of someone who is just dying to have a taste of grace and richness and abundance being invited in by Jesus to feast at his grace-filled table.
But that is where I get to the part that I do not like because this parable seems to say that I am lying. The parable seems to say that inviting the poorly dressed is a problem. You see, this guy, invited from the streets, comes into the feast not wearing a wedding robe. He is punished, and I think to myself, “I thought the poor were welcome? How is he supposed to be dressed well? He didn’t ask to be invited; the king had his servants invite the guy in? This seems like a set up! How is this fair?”
It all reminds me of the story of Amanda who received an invitation to her best friend’s birthday party. Before I start, you need to understand that her best friend loved unicorns. And you also need to understand that this took place in New York City.
So, the invitation had a big unicorn of the front and was titled: “Dressed to Impress: A Themed Night of Fun!”
“I love costume parties!” Amanda thought. And she knew exactly what costume would make her best friend laugh.
Amanda confidently pulled out a glittering, head‑to‑toe, blow-up unicorn costume. It was awesome. It had a rainbow tail, and a silver horn, and sparkly hooves. It was perfect.
Amanda arrived at the given address in New York City, turned on the costume’s blower, became a giant unicorn, and walked right into the restaurant. She strutted in proudly, looked around, and froze.
What she saw were people wearing elegant cocktail dresses, crisp suits, and tasteful jewelry. They all turned her way and stared and the inflated, plastic, discount store creation standing before them.
The theme was “Dressed to impress,” and the thing that stood at the door of the high-end restaurant was, indeed, an impressive sight!
The tension was broken by her friend who burst out laughing. Others in the restaurant assumed she was part of a flash mob. And a child came up to her and asked if she granted wishes. They all took pictures with the unicorn, and it was great, and it was embarrassing.
Now, Amanda’s costume mistake cost her some pink cheeks and dignity, but at least it did not cost her life. The guy from the streets who shows up at the king’s wedding banquet in the wrong clothing is bound “hand and foot” and thrown “into the outer darkness, where there will be weeping and gnashing of teeth” (Matthew 22:13).
And I feel for the people who show up on a Sunday morning to Jesus’ feast and feel underdressed. Underdressed, not only in what they can afford to wear, but also underdressed in their knowledge of God or the Bible; underdressed in their ability to trust God; underdressed in their morals; underdressed in their reputation; underdressed and exposing themselves as sinners and unloved and weak and lacking faith. I once saw a guy who was asked by an usher to leave because he was wearing a hat. He needed the hat to hide some shameful and hideous scars on his head. When he entered, he feared he would be thrown out, and he was.
I know that I am not alone in fearing that in some way that I am not good enough. We fear that we are an imposter, pretending to be good and faithful, but actually being very poor and weak. We fear that if anyone knew the real us, we would be thrown out to suffer the “weeping and gnashing of teeth” (Matthew 22:13).
So that was the part of the parable that I did not like. It seems like a contradiction. All are invited and all are welcome, but if you cannot dress right, you actually should not come or there will be consequences. It seems unloving. It seems unfair. It seems the opposite of God’s character. “It seems like I need to do a little more research,” I said to myself.
So, I did. I researched ancient Jewish wedding banquets in Palestine, and I discovered something really important. Do you remember that wedding robe that the guy was not wearing? It turns out that those things were handed out at the door. You see, wedding banquets were several days long. People came and went from the festivities. They would party all night, head off to work in the morning, and come back again after working. To maintain the glory and majesty of the celebration, the host would hand out these wedding robes at the door, covering all the sweat and dirt underneath. The guy that was thrown out for refusing to wear the robe. He refused to take part. He refused to celebrate.
And that makes so much more sense. Jesus covers us all, good and bad, with robes of love and forgiveness. We are all invited to the celebration: rich, poor, faithful, faithless, strong, weak, good looking, needs improvement; all of us are loved, forgiven, covered by the sacrifice of Jesus on the cross, and welcomed into God’s party of grace.
It is true that some people break into Jesus’ party and refuse to wear that robe of grace and forgiveness. Why would you want to be at the party if you did not want to be a part of the party? Why would you desire grace and forgiveness, if you did not want to be involved in offering grace and forgiveness?
I do not really think that we need the consequence of weeping and gnashing of teeth because bitter and unforgiving people tend to live bitter and unforgiving lives. That sort of life seems full of weeping and gnashing to me. Maybe a bitter life is the consequence of living a bitter life.
But setting them aside, what I want to say to you this morning is “Welcome to the party! If you are tenderhearted and good, welcome. Feast on God’s goodness.
If you are stuck in life and lost, welcome. Feast on God’s goodness.
If you lack faith and do not know which way to turn, welcome. Feast on God’s goodness.
And, if you cannot bring yourself to forgive or be forgiven, go to the door and get a robe. Christ’s robe of love and grace can cover all of that. Go to the door, love will find you. Go to the door, Christ will find you. Go to the door and learn what it mean to wear God’s love.



