Romans 12:9-21 (NRSVue)
9 Let love
be genuine; hate what is evil; hold fast to what is good; 10 love one another
with mutual affection; outdo one another in showing honor. 11 Do not lag in
zeal; be ardent in spirit; serve the Lord. 12 Rejoice in hope; be patient in
affliction; persevere in prayer. 13 Contribute to the needs of the saints;
pursue hospitality to strangers.
14 Bless
those who persecute you; bless and do not curse them. 15 Rejoice with those who
rejoice; weep with those who weep. 16 Live in harmony with one another; do not
be arrogant, but associate with the lowly; do not claim to be wiser than you
are. 17 Do not repay anyone evil for evil, but take thought for what is noble
in the sight of all. 18 If it is possible, so far as it depends on you, live
peaceably with all. 19 Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave room for the
wrath of God, for it is written, “Vengeance is mine; I will repay, says the
Lord.” 20 Instead, “if your enemies are hungry, feed them; if they are thirsty,
give them something to drink, for by doing this you will heap burning coals on
their heads.” 21 Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.
Reflection
“Get behind
me, Satan!” (Matthew 16:23). That is what Jesus tells Peter when
Peter suggests to Jesus that sometimes love has too steep a cost. As Jesus describes his upcoming pain, death,
and resurrection, Peter’s mind is fixated on images of Jesus suffering, being mocked
and being publicly shamed in Jerusalem.
Peter is horrified by the idea that Jesus will be killed. And Peter hasn’t even heard about the cross
yet! It is too much. Sometimes love has too steep a cost, Peter is
convinced.
Sometimes love has too steep a cost, I am convinced on most days to tell you the truth. Allowing myself to be hurt again by a person after my heartfelt attempts to love them have soured terribly seems to be too steep of a cost on most days. Can’t we intensely dislike our enemies…my mother taught me to never hate…but can’t we really, really, really not like our enemies? In the least, can’t we just ignore those who hate us?
Sometimes love has too steep a cost. If I stopped and helped every person who seemed to need it, I would never get anything done. There just is not enough time for love; not the kind of love that Jesus shows the whole world on the cross. Can’t I just love those close to me…the ones who love me? Isn’t that enough.
I am with you Peter, sometimes love has too steep a cost. Enemies do not need to take up space in our lives. We can use our precious time to simply love those who love us back. And neither I, nor Peter, can fathom that love might lead all the way to death. “God forbid it, Lord! This must never happen to you” Peter protests with genuine love for Jesus dripping from his lips (Matthew 16:22).
And to both Peter and myself Jesus literally shouts, “Get behind me, Satan! You are a hindrance to me…” (Matthew 16:23).
Now, I have been shouted at by my dad. I have been shouted at by my Grandma. I was once even shouted at by my substitute music teacher because I was committing the terrible sin of singing with my hands behind my back rather than on my lap. That shouting was bad enough. Can you imagine being shouted at by the Lord?
“Get behind me.”
It is strange, but that shouted rebuke from Jesus’ lips has been repeating over and over again in my mind, as if God needed me to understand something deeply.
“Get behind me.”
“Get behind
me.”
“Get behind
me.”
And then it dawned on me; these words are not a rebuke. Jesus is literally telling me to get behind him, to walk behind him, to follow him, to love like Jesus.
In another flash of insight, I remembered that 31 years after Jesus was crucified, Peter too was crucified. Apparently, he had learned to love like Jesus. Maybe I can learn to love like Jesus as well.
When the Apostle Paul thinks about Jesus’ life and death, he too is captivated by the love. The healings, the feedings, the protection of the lowly against the powerful, the love of enemies, the forgiveness of those crucifying him while he hung on the cross, “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing” (Luke 23:34), and, of course, the acceptance of Paul as an Apostle even though he was a dangerous and unlikely choice. All these images of Jesus’ love just had to be on Paul’s mind as he tried to teach the divided community of Rome love is the answer. Love like Jesus.
Paul teaches that love is:
holding fast
to what is good;
love is caring
for one another;
love is outdoing
one another in showing honor;
love is never
failing to serve the Lord;
love is rejoicing
in hope;
love is being
patient;
love is persevering
in prayer;
love is helping
the needy;
love is showing
hospitality to strangers;
love is blessing
those who hate you and refusing to curse them;
love is rejoicing
with those who rejoice;
love is weeping
with those who weep;
love is living
in harmony with one another;
love is striving
to not be arrogant;
love is associating
with the lowly;
love is not
claiming to be wiser than you are;
love is not
repaying anyone evil for evil;
love is living
peaceably with all;
love is feeding
your enemies when they are hungry;
and love is giving
your enemies something to drink when they are thirsty.
Love does not look like being overcome by evil. Love is overcoming evil with good.
“Get behind me, Satan! You are a hindrance to me…” Jesus said as he overcomes evil with good (Matthew 16:23).
“Follow me and do not be a hindrance to my love.” Follow and help. Love like me.
Now, I do not know about you, but I am pretty sure I just physically cannot remember that list about love that Paul gives us. I am lucky to remember to put on my shoes and bring my worship binder with me on Sunday mornings. There is no way I will remember that list of 20 examples of love, great as it is. Sorry Paul. I have read about your life, and I am not certain you remembered your own list either. Just how many travel companions had to “part ways” with you?
I guess all of us are hypocrites, even Paul, but there was nothing wrong with what he preached. Still, it is a long list. Do you know what helps me to remember what love looks like? Stories. Stories help me remember, and this week I have been hearing lots of stories about love, just as Paul described it. And all these stories revolved around one person: Dolly Parton. Dolly is a saint with God now, but her stories of love remain.
Before I continue, I just want to say that my ten-year-old puritan self would be horrified that I would be including Dolly Parton in a sermon. In my holier than though ten-year-old eyes I could only see someone who dressed like a tramp and was arrogant enough to name an amusement park after herself. Now, as an adult, I have heard Dolly’s story, and I have concluded that ten-year-old Jira might have been a jerk. Maybe, he had some learning to do about what love looks like.
For example, Romans 12:10 tells us to “Outdo one another in showing honor.”
As you may know, Dolly’s father, Robert Parton, was intelligent and hardworking, but he never learned to read or write. Rather than being ashamed of her family’s poverty, Dolly honored her father by speaking of him with affection and respect. In 1995, she started the Imagination Library, sending free books to children, partly in honor of him. She said that hearing children call her “The Book Lady” meant more to her father than her fame as a singer. Since the start, the program has given away hundreds of millions of books.
In Romans 12:13 Paul tells us to “Contribute to the needs of the saints.”
As you may remember, in 2016, devastating wildfires swept through the area where Dolly grew up. Loving the people of her impoverished home, she established the My People Fund and contributed to their needs by provided monthly payments to families who had lost their homes. More than $12 million was distributed. That sounds a lot like contributing to people’s needs.
In Romans 12:15 love looks like “Weep-ing with those who weep.”
Dolly grew up in a one-room cabin as one of twelve children. Her song “Coat of Many Colors” tells the true story of her mother sewing a coat from scraps because the family had little money. Children painfully laughed at her and her coat, but the song remembers the love in that gift. Dolly used her music to identify with people who struggle, grieve, or feel overlooked. She wept with those who weep.
Romans 12:18 tell us to “Live peaceably with all.”
Dolly wrote “I Will Always Love You” when she decided to leave Porter Wagoner’s television show and pursue her own career. Instead of ending the relationship with anger or resentment, she wrote a song expressing gratitude and affection. The song became one of the most famous farewells in music history in which she chose honor and peace during a difficult separation.
In Romans 12:16, love teaches us to “not be haughty, but associate with the lowly.”
Even after becoming wealthy and famous, Dolly invested in her home region through scholarships, literacy programs, jobs, and community support. Her early Buddy Program, which rewarded students for finishing school, helped dramatically reduce dropout rates in her county. She often said that success only matters if you can help others.
Those who knew Dolly described her as someone who brought joy, kindness, and hope into the world—qualities that closely resemble Paul’s vision in Romans 12 of a life shaped by Jesus’ love.
Was she perfect? Of course not. But Jesus chooses imperfect people like Dolly, and Paul, and me, and you all the time. Jesus chooses imperfect people to touch others with a divine love that is perfect.
That love would do anything to bring those who are lowly and depressed and sinful back to life. That love would go to the cross. And that love entices us to get behind Jesus and follow.
That love draws us into a way of life that truly believes that the good life looks like one in which God empowers us to “love like Jesus.”




